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John La Valle on how easy it is to encourage someone to do the opposite of what it is you want them to do: “When you say to your kid ‘Don’t spill your milk’, you are creating in your kids’ mind a well-formed goal: ‘Spill your milk!’“ Dr. Richard Bandler in a metaphor on motivation: “The big lesson from the Cold War is that people rather go shopping than shooting each other.“ Dr. Richard Bandler on how the craving of smoking while abandoning your addiction can help you in demonstrating you are on the right track: “Don’t run away from difficulty. Utilise it!“ John La Valle on efficient use of language during coaching: “When you want to elicit, you want to use the least amount of words, the least amount of steps that make it easy for the other person to get there.“ Kathleen La Valle on taking decisions: “Feel bad, and you’ll make bad decisions. Feel good, and you’ll make good decisions.“ John La Valle on the feeling of guilt, during a demonstration on how to get rid of guilt: “Guilt is the gift that keeps giving.“ Dr. Richard Bandler on the fear of psychotherapists for running out of clients if they would help their patients in a more efficient way: “There is no shortage of lunatics on planet Earth.“ Dr. Richard Bandler during a demonstration on eliminating beliefs as "I'm not musical", and learning strategies to make music: “The nice thing about playing music is that the only person you have to please is yourself.“ Dr. Richard Bandler on listening to what someone says and how they say it: “If you don’t really listen, you don’t really hear.“ Dr. Richard Bandler at the end of the training, on beliefs: “All generalisations will destroy themselves eventually, including this one.“ Marc However you experience a crisis, it's never as bad as you think it is. And it's certainly not as bad as the media had promised. You can lose your job, you may have lost a lot of money, ... there is still much left over. Many companies went bankrupt, but more companies survived and possibly even did better. And maybe some of these companies just survived because others went bankrupt. Ask yourself: "What have I more now than before these difficulties? Even if it's only more time, would you rather squander this by feeling sorry for yourself? No matter how much money you’ve lost, you can always recover. The same principle does not apply to time!
Nothing lasts forever, even a crisis. Every crisis comes to an end at some point. There always comes a moment where everyone says: "Now that's enough, never again." They join hands and everything gets rebuilt in a new and better way. And you know that some day there will be a new, larger, more serious crisis that will be the biggest ever. So many people before us have at one time lost everything, and eventually came out better than ever. At one time Donald Trump had a personal debt of about 900 million dollars. When he was walking through the streets of New York he noticed a beggar once and said to himself: "This beggar owns more and is millions of dollars richer than I am." It did not stop him to get back on top to become again one of the richest people in the world. What is important to be able to withstand crises, is the right attitude. A mental attitude that says: "This crisis is not me! This crisis will make me better, stronger and wiser." And maybe you already crawled out of some deep valleys in the past. How did you do this then? The author of the book "No excuse", Kyle Maynard, was born without fully developed arms or legs, but that was no excuse for him to fully develop his life and do what he wants. On his Facebook page are pictures of Kyle doing fitness exercises. He can do more with his body without full arms and legs than you and I can do with arms and legs. He is a role model for all of us. Live now, and plan for a future that appeals to you. Part of this crisis was just caused by people living in the now not thinking about the future, and engaged in huge amounts of debt. They thought it would never stop. Well, we said it before, nothing lasts forever. So you need to plan. You want to live happily now, and in the future, in one year, in five years and beyond. If you've lost your job, find a job that brings you fun and gives you the right economic prospects. Plan freshness for yourself, your family and your children. At Open University, where I regularly tutor, I sometimes meet students at the age of 30, 40 and even 50 years and older who want to give themselves a new chance in life getting that university degree they never achieved in the past. And so they build a whole new and better life for themselves and the people around them. |
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